At just a little over two months since hitting the shelves, our Forever First Lady Michelle Obama’s memoir, “Becoming” is nothing short of iconic and unarguably an instant classic. With over 3.8 million copies sold and a book tour with ticket prices that could rival the “On the Run II Tour,” this must-have is 2018’s best selling book.
I would have loved to put out a review sooner, but this gem is indeed something that needs time to be taken in and after about five weeks of laughing, crying, and not being able to put it down, I’m finally able to write my thoughts down.
I’ll start off by saying that without exaggeration, this memoir is life-changing. There are so many reasons why this book should be read over and over again, and although I won’t be able to list them all in this post, I’ll do my best to touch on what resonated most in my heart.
A Lesson and a Guide
When my hardcover copy got delivered, I was excited to curl up with it over a weekend. Honestly, I wasn’t sure what to expect from an autobiographical memoir of a former First Lady, but after getting through just the prologue and first chapter, I realized that this wasn’t just another book, this was a lesson, a guide if you will, that would help myself as well as millions of other readers learn that becoming who you are is an endless journey and that growth is infinite.
You Never Stop “Becoming” You
The book is divided into three sections, Becoming Me, Becoming Us, and Becoming More. I won’t give too much away, but these sections cover different periods of Mrs. Obama’s life. Becoming Me covers her childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood. Becoming Us describes events in her marriage to former U.S. president Barack Obama, and Becoming More encompasses a part of her life where most people would think that they’ve reached the peak of their growth, but it is here that she drives home her point that growing up never really ends.
A Refreshingly Real Conversation
What impressed me most was how refreshingly real “Becoming” was. I felt as though I was having the conversation I always wanted to have with my own mother. This conversation, one that many black women like me could benefit has two consistent messages. First, the process of “growing up” never ends; regardless of your career, social status, or intelligence level, there are always more ways to grow in various levels of your life. The second message is best summed up with one of my favorite quotes from Oprah’s Super Soul podcast:
“Everything has something to do with everything. There is nothing that’s lost. Every single thing that’s ever happened to us contributes to the being that we are right now.”
Something that makes Mrs. Obama’s journey extremely unique is that from a young age, she was always aware of when she had to make a decision, or when she was at a crossroad. Like the lawyer she is, she weighed her choices very carefully, understanding where her decisions could take her. I feel like this a very crucial lesson that I should take to heart, every decision I’ve made has contributed to my life now, and every decision I make now, affect not only mine but my family’s future. She also stressed the importance of finding her voice, which turned her into the strong, confident, graceful, and amazing Forever First Lady we love. I’m sure I’m not alone in saying this – I wish I had a conversation like this with my mother/aunt/friend earlier in life; someone to let me know that it’s OK to “swerve” in life and that my happiness shouldn’t rely on the approval of others.
A Must Read and Must Share
I highly recommend this book to any woman who is asking herself how she can continue growing towards her full potential. As a full-time working mother and wife, I found “Becoming” remarkably relatable; personally identifying with the confessions of feeling like your world is constantly in motion and on your shoulders. When I finished, I felt as though I got the greatest pep talk ever, and it has inspired me to be more conscious when it comes to my choices and growth.
I wish I could buy a copy of this life-changing memoir for everyone, but for now, I’m doing a GIVEAWAY for one paperback copy of Michelle Obama’s “Becoming.” Head over to my Instagram (@onlyeden) to enter!
“Becoming” is truly a piece of literary artwork that should be enjoyed by everyone. Michelle Obama has done a fantastic job of immortalizing her story and is the true definition of #blackgirlmagic!