The Art of Letting Sh*t Go
The Art of Letting Shit Go, what does it mean? On my personal growth journey, I’ve learned that letting go of negative emotions that we tie to painful memories makes us receptive to new positive experiences.
Imagine that you are on a long journey and you come to an old bridge. This bridge can only support so much weight, and it’s the only way to get to your destination. You turn around and look back at all your baggage that you’ve brought this far, already knowing that it’s too heavy to bring across the bridge. You’re faced with three choices: one, you could leave your baggage behind and safely cross the bridge. Two, you could decide that the journey isn’t worth it, and you settle for staying where you are or even turn around. Or three, you can try to bring everything you have across the bridge, knowing that your life will be in danger.
What are you going to do?
In our lives, we’re all faced with the same three choices. Whether a relationship, a job, or a personal trial is weighing you down, the decision is yours whether you will settle with your baggage, try and keep carrying it at your own risk, or if you will leave it behind and move on.
Although the answer seems clear, admittedly, it’s easier said than done. As humans, we have an incredible emotional capacity. However, sometimes our emotions cause us to hold onto memories that keep us from achieving our full potential. We allow our minds and hearts to create barriers and excuses as to why we can’t move on. We blame others while the only person standing in the way of personal achievement is ourselves. This truth was a hard pill for me to swallow. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself that I was unable to focus on moving forward.
Forgiveness is the first step in letting shit go and moving forward. If you feel like you can’t forgive someone for hurting you, do it anyway. Forgiveness doesn’t mean letting toxic people back into your life, instead, forgiveness is a way for you to let the baggage go, give yourself peace of mind and a chance to grow.
What does it mean to untether yourself? When we think of a bad experience or interaction, there’s often a negative emotion tethered to it. Anger. Guilt. Sadness. If we detach our emotions from these experiences, not only will we be able to move on, but we will also benefit from the lesson of our experience.
Don’t Look Back
For me, this is the hardest step in letting shit go. It’s so easy for us to rehash old incidents, especially when it seems convenient. If you look back, all of the inner work you did to forgive and untether will be in vain. If you decide to let something go, do just that, let it go and leave it be.
Each of these three steps requires conscious effort and hard work. Overnight results shouldn’t be expected, and you shouldn’t get frustrated with yourself if you are struggling. Be patient with yourself. Everyone’s journey is different, but it’s a fact that the only way to move onward and upward is to let go of the negative baggage that weighs us down.